Well Intentioned: How Cher Stays in an Eternal Groove With Incense, Eyelashes, and All the Mark Ruffalo Movies
From mantras to meditation, mindfulness to manifestation, Well Intentioned offers an intimate look at how to make space for self-care in meaningful ways, big and small.
“I am the worst meditator in the world!” Cher tells me on a recent Zoom call ahead of the New Year. I can’t see Cher; her camera is turned off—a legendary move for an undeniable legend. But I have made it a point to keep my camera on so that Cher can see me, her lurk-courter, as I emphatically share that I too have a hard time meditating. (We have so much in common!) “I told Rinpoche that I was a terrible meditator,” she continues, “and he said ‘Oh, that’s okay. You’ll get there. You’ll get it in this life, or you’ll get it in the next!”
In this life, there is perhaps no one bigger than the 75-year-old icon who rose to stardom in the Sixties as a pop duo with her late ex-husband, Sonny, before becoming an Oscar-winning actor in the Eighties with a hot streak that included films such as Silkwood, Mask and an unforgettable turn in Moonstruck. That streak would continue into the new millennium with the dance anthem “Believe,” which finally earned her long-overdue Grammy Awards acknowledgment. The woman literally can’t stop influencing, which has not been lost on MAC: the storied makeup brand has cast Cher as the co-star of this month’s #MACChallengeAccepted social campaign, which dares us to expect its cult-favorite, performance-based products to work as hard as we do.
“I was mesmerized by makeup from the time I can remember,” Cher says, sharing that one Halloween, when she was about seven years old, her mother, Georgia Holt, wrapped her in a dress made from a peasant skirt and put makeup on her for the first time. “I was more excited I think than I ever was as a child,” she recalls with a laugh. The makeup obsession stuck—”I have spent more years than you probably have been alive in makeup,” she jokes—and so did her close relationship with her mother. “I call my mom, and that’s important to me,” Cher says of just one of the things she considers an essential part of her self-care routine below, which includes watching plenty of Mark Ruffalo movies.
1. Bat Your Lashes
2. Create Your Own Sanctuary
3. Practice Passive and Active Helping
“I wish that I journaled, and I’m actually supposed to! And I just. Can’t. Get. Into. It. I just can’t get there, you know? I have great intentions and I’ll write for like three days, and then I’ll just misplace the book and I won’t be interested in finding it. But there’s one meditation that says, ‘May all beings be free from suffering and the causes of suffering and find true happiness,’ and I think that’s my favorite thing to kind of focus on—I think it’s really important. Because my life is so easy, and people have such hard lives, you know? So you have to be actively helping people, and you have to be passively helping by just putting it in the universe.”